In the words of Marie Kondo, “What sparks joy for you personally? And what doesn’t?” These questions are great for the initial process of decluttering and tidying, but this also applies to mental health. If we find relief after getting rid of things we don’t need in our lives to create new space in our homes, then we can apply this method to our headspace.

Let’s start with thoughts, shall we? Thoughts consume our minds 24/7, whether it’s positive or negative. Let’s face it, we’re going to have negative thoughts, it’s inevitable; however, it’s important to assess where the negative thoughts stem from. If the negative energy derives from a person, place or thing(s), then it’s time to Marie Kondo the s**t out of your headspace. In all realness, there are circumstances that stem beyond our control, but we should not allow these circumstances to suck the joy out of our lives. There is always a way to get yourself out of the toxicity – whether it be an environment, between a person or people, etc.

Let’s unravel examples of toxic environments. If you are living in a toxic environment, one that heightens anxiety where you feel mental and physical signs of pain, then you should speak out and ask for help. Many people refuse this step because they feel an overwhelming sense of helplessness, or struggle with the idea of asking someone for help. It’s a strenuous hurdle to jump over, but once you stop internalizing and begin to speak out for yourself, you will find immense relief. Talk to someone or people that you trust – family, friends, therapist, or whomever you feel will support you and your overall well being. You will be surprised at the amount of unconditional love and support you will receive after taking this step.

If you’re working in a toxic environment, it is up to you to take the necessary steps of action. If you choose to stay in your place of work despite the toxic environment, then you must utilize resources available in the company or organization to disclose your thoughts and concerns. It is imperative to come to terms with the realism that no one will advocate for you better than yourself. I understand how intimidating this concept may seem, but if you don’t stand up for yourself, then you will continuously face negativity and unhappiness. If you’re being depreciated and treated poorly, then it’s time to stand up for yourself and find employment elsewhere. You can “love” what you do, but if you’re in a negative environment, you will begin to resent what you love doing – and that is not fair to yourself and your well being. Constant reminder to anyone who is struggling with the idea of leaving their workplace: Know Your Worth! (See my previous post for more insight and suggestions for help 🙂 ).

Relationships can bring us joy, or they can be toxic. It’s up to you to free yourself from anyone or anything toxic that makes you feel mentally and/or physically pained. Trust your instincts! If you start to feel physically ill by someone’s presence, then trust your intuitive vibes! Your body is trying to tell you something that your mind cannot show you. Let’s use animals as an example with trusting instincts. Animals are extremely intuitive, and instinctively determine whether it is safe to be around a certain species. For example, if a dog walks up to a person and immediately backs away, growls, or shivers, they are aware that the animal or person is not safe to interact with. There is a reason behind this behavior, and it’s an example that we can learn from! (That may sound crazy, but I am a dog-mom, so I am a bit biased by this concept)!

So now that we’ve addressed negative and toxic examples, let’s shift gear to joy!

Start focusing more on what makes you happy. We always make excuses for ourselves when it comes to incorporating things that make us happy, and “time” is the biggest culprit. There never seems to be enough time in the day to get things done, let alone do things for ourselves to decompress after a long day. Want to know the solution to this problem? Make time for yourself (say it louder for the people in the back)!

I know, it’s way easier said than done, but it’s possible! Don’t let the idea of this concept stress you out. I promise that you will feel so much better once you approach and accomplish this for yourself. Even if it’s ½ hour to an hour each day, find an activity/hobby in that time span that you actually want to do for yourself. Take a walk, bake your favorite treat, exercise, draw a bubble bath, relax with your favorite book or TV show – I’m positive that you can incorporate something in your daily routine to allow yourself to alleviate stress, worry, or any negative thought that could consume your headspace. You will be so pleased to find a sense of calm after it’s done, just like we do when we clean and organize our living space.

So let’s try this out for ourselves. Let’s get rid of anything that is toxic in our lives that consumes negativity, and make more time for things that make us happy. Even if there is a little mess or clutter along the way, clearing your headspace and freeing yourself of toxicity will transform your body, mind and spirit. Marie Kondo would be so proud!